Deciding to have rhinoplasty is a personal thing, something you can choose to do on your own with input and advice from a trusted facial plastic surgeon. But what about your children and spouse? While it’s your nose and your body, the people in your life may have some opinions or questions about your choice to have nasal surgery. Even if your family fully supports your decision, bringing up the topic of rhinoplasty can be tricky. Follow these tips to make the conversation go as well as possible.
Talking to Your Kids
You might wonder if you should even tell your kids about your decision to have surgery and how much detail you should go into if you do tell them about it. One important thing to remember is to keep the discussion you have with them age appropriate. If you have a 1 year old at home, you don’t have to say much to him or her.
But, your conversation will get more complicated the older your children are. When talking about your surgery with younger kids, keep things simple. Explain the reason why you’re having the surgery and how you’ll look afterwards. Let them know that you might look a little scary afterwards, but that the bruises will heal and you’ll be back to your old self in almost no time. If you are explaining the reason to them, use basic explanations, such as you had trouble breathing through your nose or you’re having the surgery to remove a bump from the top of the nose.
It can be a bit more challenging to talk about your surgery with your teenagers, especially if your teens have been asking you for rhinoplasty of their own. If that is the case, explain that you are an adult, your nose is fully grown, and that this is a decision you’ve taken a lot of time making. You can let them know that they are welcome to have nasal surgery later on, when they are adults, too, if that is something they want.
Some teenagers might be against the idea of surgery. In that case, the discussion can get a bit trickier. Let your teenagers express their opinions, let them know that you accept those opinions, but that your decision is one for you to make.
No matter how old your kids are, it’s a good idea to give them some idea of what to expect after your surgery. Let them know that you won’t be able to play much after your surgery, aside from board games or card games. You might also want to make sure they know that you won’t be able to tidy up their bedrooms, pack their lunches or otherwise clean up after them after your surgery. If you have a partner, he or she can pick up some of the slack when it comes to chores. But, your rhinoplasty can also be a great excuse for your kids to start doing some or more chores on their own.
Talking to Your Partner
Talking to your partner or spouse about your decision to have rhinoplasty can be more involved and complicated than talking to your kids. It’s true that you can try to hide the procedure from your partner, by scheduling it when he or she is traveling for work, but honesty is usually the best policy.
Aside from being honest, it’s a good idea to talk about your decision to have rhinoplasty with your partner because you’ll most likely need his or her help afterwards. Someone is going to have to drive you home after surgery and stay with you for at least the first night.
If your partner is hesitant about the idea, or dead-set against it, you have a few options. You can bring him or her along with you when you meet with the plastic surgeon, so that he or she can ask the doctor any questions he or she might have. You might consider a few rounds of couples therapy, so that you can discuss your concerns together without getting into an argument. Finally, if you can’t see eye to eye, you can decide to go ahead with the surgery without the support of your partner. In that case, you’ll want to find support from another family member or close friend, so that you have someone to help you out afterwards.
In West Palm Beach, Florida, Dr. Michael Schwartz is a facial plastic surgeon who specializes in rhinoplasty. If you’re unsure what to say to your family or have other questions about the surgery, Dr. Schwartz can help. To schedule a consultation, call 561-228-5888 today.